“I’ve got a surprise for you.”

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You rarely see such stories printed in America. The first cry out of the apologists mouths will be that this “is only a minority – just an isolated incident!”.

Next time they try to make an argument that all Christians are like the evil Westboro Baptist Church or that Koran burning fruitcake, Terry Jones, they should be reminded of this.

‘I’ve got a surprise for you’: Husband blindfolds his wife…. and then chops off her fingers to stop her studying for a degree

A jealous husband is facing life in prison after chopping off his wife’s fingers because she began studying for a degree without his permission.

Rafiqul Islam, 30, blindfolded his wife Hawa Akhter, 21, and taped her mouth, telling her he was going to give her a surprise present.

Instead he made her hold out her hand and cut off all five fingers. One of his relatives then threw Ms Akhter’s fingers in the dustbin to ensure doctors could not reattach them.

Mr Islam, who is a migrant worker in the United Arab Emirates, had warned his wife there would ‘severe consequences’ if she did not give up her studies.

‘After he came back to Bangladesh, he wanted to have a discussion with me,’ Ms Akhter told The Times.

‘Suddenly, he blindfolded me and tied my hand. He also taped my mouth saying that he would give me some surprise gifts. But, instead he cut off my fingers.’

Mohammed Saluddin, the Bangladesh police chief said that Mr Islam had confessed after he was arrested in the capital, Dhaka, and will face charges of permanent disfiguration.

Human rights groups are demanding life imprisonment.

‘He was enraged. He was jealous because while he only had a grade eight standard education, she was off to college to pursue higher studies,’ said Mr Saluddin.

Ms Akhter says she is learning to write with her left hand and is determined to resume her studies. She is now back at her parent’s house.

The attack is the latest in a series of acts targeting educated women in the Muslim-majority company.

In June, an unemployed man gouged out the eyes of his wife, an assistant professor at Dhaka University, apparently because he could not stand her pursuing higher studies at a Canadian University.

30 thoughts on ““I’ve got a surprise for you.”

  1. Please note that the authorities are pursuing these sick bastards, and I do hope they get to be the ‘hot date’ in prison.

    If we are going to use tariffs and ‘preferred nation’ status for any reason, encouraging a country to curb these atrocities should #1 on the list.

    • Please also note that no arrest or trial will restore this woman’s fingers. Even if they imprison her husband and those responsible for life – even if they kill them – it won’t be OK for her – ever.

    • Maybe a ‘fingers for fingers’ approach to the problem would help cut down on such acts. See, If I was President, Seal Team Six would be kept pretty busy, but, to quote the Nixon tapes, it would be wrong!

  2. 004.034
    YUSUFALI: Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all).

    • Were they now? Or have we suddenly “discovered” this “fact” in our recently developed PC world view?

      Before you retort out of hand, I’d ask you to remember the Qur’an is not the only holy book that cautions against the troubles that follow if society gives itself over to what we might call “feminization.” Heck, one might argue this is a large part of the problem with our own society.

      Just saying. Now, go ahead, throw your darts. I can take them (’cause I’m a MAN 😉 )

  3. Wow. Read much on the American Indians? Obviously not. Take Western Civ. in college? Seems highly unlikely. You are a huge chauvinist. Oh, and FYI: I’m the 17-year-old gay-man-trapped in-a- woman’s body around here. I’m sure G. can back me up on history and FL on the other 😉
    Please, please, please, Mr. Man: Have my baby. Oh, gosh, wait. What’s that I hear? Crickets…crickets….

    • Yes – on all counts.

      Indians: that’s a split – at best.

      Western Civ: all western civilizations I’m aware of have been based on a patriarchal system.

      As for the rest: you have real problems, Kells. You see things through a tainted prism that has been skewed by political correctness, itself.

    • Most of the “matriarchal past” theories I have read – and I’ve read my fair share – seem to be based around old sculptures, figurines and drawings which are presented as proof that women were once in charge, if not out right worshiped. I say humbug on all these fantasies. I can explain ALL of this so called “evidence” in two words:


      Unless you are going to argue that, if someone digs up our trash pits 2-4,000 years from now and finds Lindsey Lohan’s Play Boy edition, they will take this as “proof” that women once ruled society and were worshiped by the men of their time.

      You see, Man has this infinite ability to read whatever he pleases into whatever he sees. In truth, these matriarchy ideas “might” be correct, but we have little real evidence to support them unless we have actual writing that we can read with at least 75% accuracy TELLING us that this is how things were.

      BTW: IF the world once revolved around a matriarchal human race, how in bloody blazes did we EVER reproduce sufficiently to become the dominant species on this planet? Most every species I know has to be “talked into it,” and if you women were actually in charge, I doubt enough slick grunters would have been available to ever sustain our numbers as a species.

  4. Wrong song ding dong. Dang! Now I’ve gotta hunt down info to prove my point! Truly, you’re turning into Buggerthat. Fine. I shall compile for you the information so we shall see who has the real problems. Um, that would be you.

    • Fire away. I can do likewise, but will wait to see what you present to see how hard I have to work. I might be able to handle this one without putting my nail file down 😉

  5. Kells, I don’t know of any religions LED by a Goddess or consortium thereof, but I do know that it was our monotheistic tendencies, starting with the Jews, that took female deities out of the heavenly roster. Mohammad’s first draft of the Koran featured female angels that were above man, but served Allah. The misogynistic populace(well, the male populace) rejected that scenario out of hand, and Mohammad had to hit the mountains again for a re-write. Salman Rushdie’s Satanic Verses is in part about that change in the syllabus..

    The Navahos speak of First Man and First Woman, and I don’t recall there being one who was the clear top God.

    A lot of figurines from prehistoric societies feature a pregnant woman, and archaeologists have surmised that these were religious icons.

    Some societies are Matrilineal, tracing one’s ancestry through the mother’s side, which makes way more sense, as it is near 100% certainty who one’s mother is. I wonder if those societies have or had women gods.

    • Matriarchal does not necessarily have anything to do with religious beliefs. It is – usually – a term used to describe a society led by women and where women are the dominant sex in society. Still, I have noticed the tendency to want to link the two: social structure and religion.

  6. Matriarchal, patriarchal, matrilineal, Navahos, Greek gods and goddesses; You guys are killin’ me with all this theoretical BS. I am squarley in kells corner and point to only one famous quote in history. It was uttered by Gary Bussey in 1983, in the movie D.C. Cab . . .

    “Why are women so uptight? They’ve got half the money and all the pu$$y.”

    There it is fellas. You might as well capitulate.

  7. Here we go: American Indians (for some strange reason, I couldn’t copy/paste the Navajos):
    An especially relevant example of this situation is the history of the intermingling of Cherokee and early English, Scottish and Scots-Irish trappers, hunters and explorers in the Appalachian Mountain region, primarily during the 1700s.

    The Cherokee culture and civilization had thrived for thousands of years in that mountain area that we now call northern Georgia and Alabama, up through North Carolina, Tennessee and the surrounding region.

    The “matriarchal society” of the Cherokee allowed significant independence and freedom for women. And
    when lonely European men first made their way into Cherokee lands in the early 1700s, Cherokee women were free to develop relationships with them. Nature took its course and babies of mixed ethnicity were born.

    As the decades passed, this mixing of ethnic groups present in the Appalachian region continued. By 1800, there were large numbers of mixed-ethnicity people living there.

    Iroquois Confederacy
    The Iroquois Confederacy is an example of a “matrifocal society”, with women playing a central role throughout society. Iroquois women were judges and mediators, playing a major role in the political culture. Women owned all the land, crops and any food the men obtained through hunting and fishing. Women then had the role of distributing these goods throughout society. They also played a central role in religious services, with the majority of Iroquoian Faithkeepers being women. The Iroquois Confederacy was a matrilineal society as well, with descent traced exclusively through the mother.

    The people of West Sumatra in Indonesia, called the Minangkabau, label themselves as a “matriarchate, or matriarchy.” Anthropologist Peggy Sanday, who spent her summers among the 4 million inhabitants of Minangkabau for 21 years, has observed the centrality of women in the social and economic realms. Women control land inheritance and invite their husbands into their homes to live with them. Divorce involves the man packing his bags and leaving his wife’s home. Sanday says the Minangkabau view women as the foundation of life and, therefore, the foundation of the entire social order.

    Societies in India
    Writing for the “Encyclopedia of Psychology and Religion,” Elizabeth Welsh identified several matrilineal societies in history from India. She named several cultures in southern India, including Kerala, Tulu, Nadu, Udupi and Mangalore, and Meghalaya in northeastern India. Welsh says that all these Indian societies demonstrate “matrilineal” social structures in which inheritance, name or group membership is passed through the female line.

    Orthodox Judaism
    Orthodox Judaism provides a light form of “matrilineal” descent in history. Although Jewish culture has patrilineal descent in most areas, including priestly status, royalty and tribal affiliation, it uses matrilineal descent to determine Jewish status. This is a form of matrilinealism, even though Jewish society is not considered to be a matriarchy. According to Jewish teacher Tracey Rich, several passages in the Torah makes it clear that the offspring of a Jewish woman and non-Jewish man is a Jew.

    Will do more hunting, but my time has run out.

  8. Navajo: freedom or independence does not “matriarchal” make.

    Iroquois: WHO sold you THAT line of BS! DO you have ANY idea just how savage the Iroquois were? (No, wait. If they were “matriarchal,” then it would explain that, wouldn’t it?)

    Minangkabau: I’m aware of this one. Exception to the rule does not a history make.

    Societies in India: Note she said “demonstrate,” which is an admission she is reaching – HARD – especially in this cast society. Nice try, but that sound you hear is you swinging at another fast ball…and missing.

    Orthodox Judaism: ROFLMFAO! Not in a million years – especially “orthodox.” Have you READ the Old Testament, Kells? And, for the record, the Bible is VERY clear as to NO WOMEN in the position of “priest,” so your “source” is EXACTLY what I said it would be: some PC idiot trying to bend history to fit their desires. That works if you are a Fabian Socialist, NOT if you are an intellectually honest historian.

    Sorry, toots, but I didn’t even have to stop filing my nails to deal with those pieces of “evidence.” You simply MUST do better (though you won’t be able to, hence the reason this stupidity has NEVER gained traction among serious academics).

    Oh, Kells, I know you are seeing red, and I’m sorry. But you know that I hold a sociology degree, and I studied this very subject both in getting my degree in that field as well as feminism in getting my degree in philosophy. I’ve heard the best arguments for this case and they are all fallacious. If that makes me an arrogant SOB in your eyes, so be it. In my eyes, it just means I am dealing with what is – not with what I wish it were.

  9. Oh, pin a rose on your nose! Oh, brother! You fail to mention the importance of women in the New Testament. You also fail to mention that Christianity itself “borrowed” from many matriarchal religious paegan rites.

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