Coming from a very frank and open family, I suppose is why I am perfectly comfortable if someone tells me I have bad breath or a fat ass. Does it hurt my feelings? Yes. Does it suck? Yes. I could go through so many instances of this, it would probably cause you all to fall on the floor laughing. This post is to a response from sweet angel, Wills.
Let me tell the whole story: https://therionorteline.com/2012/08/17/monkey-business/ Basically, in the comment section, I thought that C. should’ve given the card to the child and Wills claimed I was making it all about me. That pretty much ticked me off and I so much as said so. He then responded thusly:
Sweetheart, when you say, “I don’t give a fat rat’s tiddely-boomp and I would not have put away the card,” that makes it about what you feel not about what someone else feels.
If you value a relationship, then you are considerate of the other person’s feelings. I understand there is no malice intended, but you never know how some may react. I was called “boy” the other night by a drunk guy. Normally, how would I react? Just blow it off as an ignorant guy having too much to drink—-had I not known that when I walked away earlier the guy said, “I’ll slice that nigger’s throat. So of course my reaction was a little different. I told his friends to not hold back that coward; let him go and let’s see if I could infringe on his 1st amendment rights to freedom of speech by breaking his jaw. Yup, just as you thought; he ran in his condo like the bitch that he is. Bad thing is, I’ve known him for over 2 years and considered him a good friend. Just think, this is a place advertised as luxury living in a gated community; not Massalina projects.
I’m generally a quiet, laid-back guy, but at that point I was ready to mop the whole clubhouse area with his ass. Figured he wasn’t worth you having to come bail me out of jail. So, now a perfectly good friendship is ruined just because an ass wanted to have a few shots of Jagermeister and try and impress his other friends, and because another guy told him to calm his language because women and children were around. Now he and his GF, that was defending him because he was “drunk and not know what he’s doing”, have lost the respect of many people in our community that they’ve actually sat down in eaten dinner with on many different occasions. Was this a case of true feelings coming out induced by alcohol? He called the other guy a “fat f*ck” and he’s a big guy, so did he call me what he sees just by the color of my skin? I’m soliciting as many responses as possible on that one. Utah, Augger, James and Dusty, please respond. You too Tex and Black. I already know how FC feels.
When the madness quieted and we went to the other guy’s place, that was the focus of this drunk’s tirade, he said he would have never believed that would happen. He was absolutely shocked since he considered the guy one of his best friends. When I said I wasn’t shocked, people looked at me surprisingly like, “Why not? Hopefully, Kells, you’ll answer that for me in your response to this post.
But to further answer your post, and this is a hint; by blacks being referred to as apes, porch moneys, etc., by ignorant people through out history, sometimes people find the term offensive. You don’t know if the kid’s parents find it that or not. CCF was concerned about how they would react, and then how they would translate it to the kid. CCF wasn’t taking the chance of it being misunderstood, so he decided to not give it. I would have given it, and since I’m black, it more than likely wouldn’t have been taken as something that it’s not. That’s life. That’s people. That’s history. That’s why you can’t just make it all about you “not giving a..”and being “PC”.
The flip side to this—I have a very good friend of mine that I call a “Silverback”. He’s big, dark skinned, and always trying to be in control. He, in return, always says, “Naw, I’m not a Silverback, I’m lowlands”. I’ve known him for over 20 years. I’m also glad he wasn’t there Saturday night when this all went down.
Looking forward to reading responses.