There have been many times in my life that I have turned to my family for help and many times I have returned that kindness. My family is a connected unit that at one time spanned all the way from great-grandparents to great-grandchildren before the wheels of time started to change that structure. My family is filled with long lived two-parent households, with with my brother and my in-laws, all married for over 25 years – my wife and I are the oldest and have been married for 32 years, my maternal grandparents were married for over 70 years.
There were some over on FaceBook who took issue with my citation of John Galt’s quote yesterday (“I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine.”) but our family is an example of how people can find unity in self-reliance. We have always cared for and helped each other but none of us expect the other to do so for our benefit. I was always told to “mind my knitting and keep putting one foot in front of the other” – in other words, to keep my focus on my task and keep pushing forward.
We are now scattered all over the country – and at one time, the world but the love and cohesion of family abides.
This family structure is not chance, it is choice. People have told me how “fortunate” I am to have this as if it is luck. It is not, it is a career choice as much as a job is. I love my wife but speaking for her, she has to put forth an effort to put up with a strong willed and opinionated bastard like me. My career quest has taken us all over the world, much of the time dragging three children with us. It has been fun and rewarding, but it has been far from easy – yet we make it work, as do our parents and our brothers and sisters do – because we are committed to each other.
I refuse to believe that this is impossible to attain for other families, black, inner-city, or white and suburban. Absent of this structure and without family to help in times of difficulty, “progressives” and statists believe that it is the government’s duty to fill the societal role of the missing family structure.
This does not work – no program, gubmint cheese or monthly check can take the place of a mother, a father and caring grandparents and the psychological and financial support these people represent.
Why does Obama not focus on the destruction of the nuclear family?
Because as they like to claim, it is all about the children. Two true believers in communism, Marx and Lenin inform us as to why. Fellow blogger, Joe Bakanovic noted these – Karl Marx said:
“The education of all children, from the moment that they can get along without a mother’s care, shall be in state institutions at state expense.“
Vladimir Lenin stated:
“Give me four years to teach the children and the seed I have sown will never be uprooted.“
Could it be that Obama is happy that the government is currently replacing the family? Are Democrats happy to accept the crime, the economic damage and the personal toll of rending the social fabric of America in two in exchange for reigning as kings over a ruined kingdom?
You are welcome to your own conclusions but the facts seem to indicate that the are.
Here is James Pethokoukis, via Instapundit:
Or maybe Obama simply doesn’t believe there is anything government can do to reverse the decline of the two-parent family where it’s struggling the most. As social scientist Lane Kenworthy writes in his new book, Social Democratic America, the “best bet with respect to family decline … is to offset the adverse impacts.” Kenworthy goes to advocate a broad and bold progressive agenda including universal early education and one-year paid parental leave. Kenworthy: “I believe our array of social programs will increasingly come to resemble those of the Nordic countries. It is in this sense that I say America’s future is a social democratic one.” Interestingly, Kenworthy thinks too much emphasis is placed on income inequality and taxing the 1% rather than raising living standards at the bottom via social programs financed through a value-added tax.