I Look Down On Young Women With Husbands And Kids And I’m Not Sorry

A month or so ago, a blogger named Amy Glass garnered quite a bit of attention for a post titled, “I Look Down On Young Women With Husbands And Kids And I’m Not Sorry”, expressing her disgust at young women who place a husband and children ahead of a career. She uncorks her vinegar tinged merlot of wisdom with this screech directed at these breeder women, these traitors to feminism:

“You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids.”

Radical feminism shares most of the traits of “progressivism”, especially the selfish focus on “self” and the fatalistic belief that only what happens to me matters, to hell with everybody else. There is a distinct lack of concern for the future – not the individual’s future, there is clearly plenty of concern for that – but there is no concern for the real future that makes families with children necessary.

With these good folk, since they seem to believe that since there is nothingness beyond their death, they seek to create a legacy of deeds and things, rather than a living legacy of children. Apparently they can’t even fathom the logic of a woman who would be so selfless as to give of herself to her kids, indicating the incredible degree of selfishness this flavor of feminism requires.

Perhaps no aspect of womyn’s fight against the oppression of the heteronormative patriarchy indicates the crass arrogance and selfishness better than support for abortion because elective abortion says this to the unborn:

“I deserve to live and you do not. I have worth because I was born. I was nurtured and educated to achieve social and economic relevance, but I’m too selfish to give you that chance, so for you, I choose not to give you the opportunity that I was given.”

A couple of years ago, there was an article in the UK Guardian, with the same tone and aim as the post. Of course, it was in celebration of the sacrament of the anti-child feminism, abortion.

Titled “I Wish My Mother Had Aborted Me”, author Lynn Beisner wrote:

“An abortion would have absolutely been better for my mother. An abortion would have made it more likely that she would finish high school and get a college education. At college in the late 1960s, it seems likely she would have found feminism or psychology or something that would have helped her overcome her childhood trauma and pick better partners. She would have been better prepared when she had children. If nothing else, getting an abortion would have saved her from plunging into poverty. She likely would have stayed in the same socioeconomic strata as her parents and grandparents who were professors. I wish she had aborted me because I love her and want what is best for her.

Abortion would have been a better option for me. If you believe what reproductive scientists tell us, that I was nothing more than a conglomeration of cells, then there was nothing lost. I could have experienced no consciousness or pain. But even if you discount science and believe I had consciousness and could experience pain at six gestational weeks, I would choose the brief pain or fear of an abortion over the decades of suffering I endured.”

I suppose we are expected to see the Beisner as heroic for wishing her mother a better life – but I just find it sad and tragic. What a weak and pitiful person she must be to say this of herself:

“The world would not be a darker or poorer place without me. Actually, in terms of contributions to the world, I am a net loss. Everything that I have done – including parenting, teaching, researching, and being a loving partner – could have been done as well, if not better by other people. Any positive contributions that I have made are completely offset by what it has cost society to help me overcome the disadvantages and injuries of my childhood to become a functional and contributing member of society.”

This is the very kind of fatalistic thinking that I find so disgusting of the pro-abortion feminist crowd, the view that every human is just the sum of their constituent chemicals, “nothing more than a conglomeration of cells”. Ms. Beisner’s paean to her own worthlessness is pretty hard to read. I almost wanted to ask why she just didn’t run away – or even kill herself – but then I figured it out – she actually does love life – she wants to live – but can’t reconcile her desire to survive with her belief that her life is worthless. By her own admission, it is likely that her mother was not headed down a normal path even if she hadn’t been born, but seems to be a convenient excuse for her own failures as much as it is a celebration of the life she has built.

And Ms. Glass – every child deserves two parents. That is both the purpose and necessity of marriage. It’s not a condemnation to prison; it is the consummation of a partnership.

C.S. Lewis wrote:

“The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only – and that is to support the ultimate career.”

Is that not true? Why do we pursue careers if not to provide for the future? What is life for if not to celebrate and extend it though our children?

The screeds of Lynn Beisner and Amy Glass are but two examples of why this brand of radical feminism is the most repulsive, fatalistic and hopeless belief system on the face of the earth – for what is the purpose in life if not to see that it continues on through our children?

And what could be nobler than to care for the next generation?

19 thoughts on “I Look Down On Young Women With Husbands And Kids And I’m Not Sorry

  1. These people are simply unbelievable. I get women’s rights but this woman wishes she was never born.

    Either she is lying for shock value or to make a point or, shr has serious issues and needs processional help.

    Honestly, I wonder what this woman tells her own kids. Would she be better off if they were aborted?

    • Don’t make the mistake of looking for logic in their words. Progressives and the feminist sub-cult are the most superficial of people. Their motives are easily discerned because they are always right there in their words – selfishness and envy driven by fear are always at the top of the list.

      • I try hard not to make the mistake of finding logic in statements that are absurd on every level, I really do.

        But, on the other hand, some of what I hear or read are like logical train wrecks. They should be ignored but the absurdity makes that nearly impossible.

        I really think there is some sort of psychosis (for lack of a better word) behind what feminists think. I find that fascinating in a weird way.

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  3. Utah: The increasing number of rants from women angry about the emptiness they are experiencing as they enter middle age with nothing but a “career” as their life product, is fascinating. Men have always known that our “work” outside the family has been time taken from our primary purpose as human beings…bearing and nurturing the next generation of human beings into the meaning of life and into their specific culture. Women who make the decision to focus their energy on raising intellectually and emotionally healthy children follow the highest possible vocation in our species. Everything else that men or women who choose to remain childless do in life is ultimately done to support the women whose higher calling is to perpetuate our human race. I have six children and I can live with the fact that everything I’ve worked to accomplish in my fairly productive life has been done to help them find their ways through life.

    To be a woman who is capable of bearing and raising children and to have made the decision not to do so is apparently something that often gets rethought as that woman’s childbearing years pass away. It is unfortunate that some women find it necessary to vilify other women who have made a different choice. Our Liberal/Progressive friends like to repackage supporting abortion as not being pro-murder, but rather as “Pro-Choice!” How ironic that they are so quick to attack the far better choices of those with whom they disagree! Women today have the free choice to live their own lives as they choose, which is a good thing. But none of us should think we have a license to criticize others for choices they make, as long as those choices do not injure another human being. Why would anyone care at all about Amy Glass’s rants about other women’s choices? I certainly don’t. CDE

    • I used to not care either, Charles – but what Burke said about evil succeeding when good men do nothing sort of rings true to me.

      Even if you have never trafficked in lies, if someone incessantly calls you a liar, people who don’t know you start to believe it. I think it is the same with these situations.

      • Utah: I grasp the concept that all that is necessary for evil people to succeed is for good people to remain silent. In this case, however, far more women are moms than wage slaves, and the harpies reveal themselves constantly in their attacks. While I don’t ever consciously misrepresent anything, I deal with liars constantly and they are all eventually get caught. I would never want to be one of them, since speaking the truth is much less taxing. I’m not smart enough to be an effective liar. Sociopaths often are. Good post!!! CDE

        • What Utah quotes from Burke is right ……….. “We the Rational” have to speak to these leftist rantings !

          The biggest mistake rational, thinking people did in the last 40 years was to remain SILENT and let the ranters Rant on.

    • There are a couple of very mentally unstable and emotionally ill leftist people who frequent this site and spew hatred against the regulars.

      You’ve seen them, we all have.

  4. Amy Glass is selling her gender short. Marie Curie had two daughters; Margaret Thatcher had twins, and she was a research chemist before she was a politician! Golda Meir raised two children, Benazhir Bhutto of India had a family to raise and Pakistan to rule. I would go on, but my wife is at work, and I have laundry to do.

    • melfamy: Great post!!! I’m not certain what these alleged “feminist” harpies think happens in a typical two-career family today, but it surely is not Ozzie and Harriet!!! And having six kids gave me direct experience with how challenging being an effective parent actually is…far more so than building a company or making payroll. I do the laundry as well!!! CDE

      • Charles, in the history of every major civil or social endeavor, there comes a point the winners have to find something, anything, to justify the continuance of their no-longer needed struggle. Giving up power voluntarily is just not in our DNA..

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